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Eye On The Storm

Here on the island, we’re watching the weather. Hurricane Cristobel is churning up the Atlantic, pushing up the east coast and planning a drive-by sometime between tomorrow and Thursday evening. Who can know, really, what will happen. Who can predict what the monster that is the sea will do when she is angry?  Mother Nature…
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Once I Wrote A Book…Then I Wrote It Again…

Life. Crazy huh? Who can make sense of it? Well, to keep a very long story short, today’s post is about sharing the happy news that my first novel, Yesterday’s Tomorrow, has been re-released and is now available for your reading pleasure on Amazon! Even after all these years, this book is still #1 in…
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Make Your Art – And Be Satisfied…

The weeks are running away from me. Summer is almost over and I’m out of breath. Not because of all I’ve done, I suppose, but more because of what I’ve learned. What I’m still learning. What I’m trying desperately to get a handle on and hold fast to. This being still. This knowing. This trusting.…
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Life and Death and The Glorious In Between

I am a habitual reader of the Obits. When you live on a small island, it becomes a habit. Not just for old people. We all do it. Today I mourned the passing of a brave lady who lost her cancer battle yesterday. She and her husband were part of my parents circle of friends…
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When You Feel Like You've Failed…What Then?

Every morning now for the past few months, dishes stack in my sink. Some mornings they’re clean, some mornings they’re not. And somebody forgot to turn on the dishwasher. Me, I suppose, but I wonder if I’m the only one who knows how to work the thing. Pressing the right button is quite difficult, I…
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Books and Ducks and Copper Pots

When I was young, I laughed at the notion of antiques. Old stuff. Who in the world would want that? I wanted everything new. For me to be the first to use it. For us to make our own history. But I hadn’t lived enough. Hadn’t traveled enough. Hadn’t cried enough. I didn’t know. Silver…
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Choose Love

I was sixteen the first time he said it. With his arm around me in the darkened room, my head on his shoulder, probably half asleep. “I love you.” Three little words that had the power to change my life. If I chose to let them. Of course at sixteen, love was exciting. Love was…
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Hope And Hydrangeas

Hydrangeas. They’re one of my favorite flowers. They don’t smell, sadly, but they’re beautiful. They come in many different varieties and colors of pink and blue and white. I’ve longed to grow them for years, but in Bermuda it’s difficult, if not impossible. When we bought our place on the lake in Northern Ontario, I…
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Objectivity

Disclaimer – the thoughts expressed below are simply mine. Agree or disagree. And there are no spoilers here, incase you have not read the book. It’s one of those big words that you cannot walk away from. Objectivity. To be objective. To think for oneself. To read or view something without prejudice, to form one’s…
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Soul Deep

I never knew I had a sister. Never grew up with a brother or a sister. Just a lot of dolls, a cat, two dogs and a hell of an imagination. I was never really lonely. When friends were scarce, I made them up. Funny that. I think I started making up stories from around…
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What To Do With Fear and Failure and Other Nuisances

February 18, 2019 |

I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m fine. Maybe you’re familiar with the mantra? It’s easy to say. Easy to repeat. And easy to convince yourself of. Because if you say something enough times, eventually you begin to believe it. Even if it’s not true. So last week I wrote about change, and how I was going…

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Maybe It’s Time

December 27, 2018 |

“You gain strength,courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”  — Eleanor Roosevelt. So we…

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Happy Mother’s Day!

May 13, 2018 |

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing Moms I know and love. Those with us and those who have gone before us. This day is hard for some of us, I know. I miss my Mom too. But I’m grateful for the memories. Grateful for the legacy she left us. And grateful that I got…

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Write, Straight Up

May 7, 2018 |

Not on the rocks. Not with a splash. Maybe a twist, that’d be fun. But don’t water it down. Write what you want to say, write from you heart, and write, for the love of everything, like you mean it. If you don’t mean it, don’t waste your reader’s time, or yours. After 20 something…

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This Thing About Community, And Why We Need It

April 5, 2018 |

Can I be honest? Groups scare me a little. Anything larger than my husband and I, and two other couples is just a bit out of my comfort zone. Even when our group of eight, all close and fun friends, gets together, the house is just a bit too loud. And that’s kind of funny…

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What Am I Afraid Of?

January 29, 2018 |

Words fail me. Lately. When I try to sum up what this thing is that I do and why I do it and why I can’t not do it and why some days the words won’t come . . .  words fail me. And the question rattles hard in my head. Is it . .…

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The Magic Formula

January 22, 2018 |

Sharing some thoughts on writing, and life. So I’m asked this a lot. Mostly in author interviews, occasionally in an email from an aspiring author who just wants a break, wants her words to be seen, heard. “What’s the magic formula?” I’d tell you if I knew. Honest. So this is the part I could…

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Why Not Me?

October 18, 2017 |

The stories make me sad. So terribly sad. And angry. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve seen them too. All over social media. The hashtag #MeToo Sometimes no story at all. Sometimes more than we may want to know. But they’re all connected. Women. Women who have in some way, been violated. Been…

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And So We Choose This Thing

June 21, 2017 |

Thirty one years. Today. I stood before him in a long white gown that cost more than my father wanted to spend, but he bought it for me anyway, because it was the one and he was ‘the one’ and my Dad would have bought me the moon if I said I wanted it. I stood…

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Is It Supposed To Hurt This Much?

June 8, 2017 |

That was a text I got from my daughter a few hours into labour. “Is it supposed to hurt this much?” I wanted to laugh, but I didn’t. Because, yes. It is. And it does. And it will continue to. With every challenge that comes with being a parent. Being a mother or father or…

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Eye On The Storm

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Here on the island, we’re watching the weather. Hurricane Cristobel is churning up the Atlantic, pushing up the east coast and planning a drive-by sometime between tomorrow and Thursday evening. Who can know, really, what will happen. Who can predict what the monster that is the sea will do when she is angry? 

Mother Nature cares not for man’s plans. Nor does she give a whit that I’m supposed to be on a plane out of here tomorrow…

Such is life. 

Storms happen. 

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It’s calm out there now, but the wind is starting to rattle the windows. The waves are getting restless. The sky has morphed into a thickening mass of gray. There is trouble brewing. And soon our view will change. 

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We have things we do here when storms come. We stock up on batteries, fresh water, tinned foods, non-perishables. Rum. I have done none of the aforementioned. (Except the rum). If it’s particularly threatening, we’ll put up the plywood and secure the shutters. Our homes are built to withstand the wind – cement brick nowadays, but limestone when it was plentiful back in de day on de rock – they don’t blow down easy. So we get ready, make some Dark & Stormy’s, turn on the Weather Channel, and we watch. 

But after a while, if you keep your eye on the storm too long, a funny thing happens.

Panic.

It creeps in, just a little at first. What if those windows we didn’t board up get smashed? What if this thing gets bigger? What if it changes track and heads straight for us? Panic floods faster than an overflowing pool, rises quicker than the waves and churns up the guts. It smacks headaches onto foreheads and creates havoc in households where people just want to keep calm, dammit. 

Next thing you know, you’re desperately scrambling to get the next plane out. 

And there isn’t one.

I should know. 

I spend too much time watching storms. I let them build and build and build until I’ve got a cyclone on my hands and I’m swept right up into the middle of it. And there is nowhere to go. By that time, it’s too late to batten down the hatches. I’m done. I let the monster in and it won. And sometimes the damage is irreparable. 

Sometimes we forget to put down anchor. Forget that ‘this too shall pass…’ Because it will. It may not be a whole lot of fun to ride out, (hence the Dark & Stormy’s), but it won’t last forever. Storms rarely do. They will come and they will go. What you do with the wind is your call. 

But hope. 

Always hope. 

Eventually the dawn will break, ushering in a new day.

And an evening calm. 

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How are you doing with your storms?