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Are You Ready To Adopt? by Christine Field

  Some couples take years to reach this decision point.  Some agonize over it.  For others, it flows naturally.  But when the pain of infertility or miscarriage begins to fade and you refuse to let the sun go down on your longing to be a parent – then you are ready to consider adoption.  Our journey began after…
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Rejection – The Unwanted Guest

Ever had somebody show up at your door uninvited? Depending on who that person is, this can be kinda cool, or really awkward. When my kids were little, we lived in a constant state of toys on the floor, dishes in the sink, socks stuck to the curtains…you get the idea. If anybody stopped by,…
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A Visit with Christine Lindsay – Birthmother

Sitting in the hospital bed, I held Sarah, my tears splashing onto her tiny face. My counselor softly said, “Christine, she’s your baby. You can keep her if you want to.” But I wanted a daddy for my baby. And I felt this promise from God—if I stuck to the adoption plan, He would reunite Sarah…
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November is National Adoption Awareness Month!

Welcome! This month, in honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, I’m thrilled to be devoting my blog to all those affected by adoption in some way. I put out the call some time ago, and have received wonderful posts from adoptive parents, adoptees, and birth mothers. I can’t wait to share them with you! There…
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Blog Swap with Katie Ganshert!

Today we’re doing something a little different! My friend and super amazing author Katie Ganshert, is here to talk to you, and I’m over on her blog! Cool,huh? Why are we doing this? Good question! Well, as you know, I’m an adoptee and I love talking about adoption. Katie and her husband Ryan are in…
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The winner of Hidden in the Heart is… Luggage Lady! Please contact me with your mailing addy! Coming up on the blog… Tomorrow I’m doing a blog swap with my friend, author Katie Ganshert. We’re both going to be talking about adoption, so stop by and see what she has to say, and then visit…
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Crazy Times!

Well, I have to apologize – due to technical difficulties and traveling non-stop for the last few weeks – I’ve been lax in my blogging, and have not managed to post my Featured Friday Author. But then I figured, since last Friday was my birthday,(not sure what that has to do with anything),  and I…
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Finding Your Place

This week I’ve been blessed to be attending the Books & Such retreat in beautiful Monterey, California. I’ll be honest, these last twenty-four hours, as I find myself somehow surrounded by a bunch of best-selling authors, I’ve wondered on more than one occasion how I got here. I’m feeling a little out of place. Ever…
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Should We Adopt?

Life is interesting. When I set out to write Hidden in the Heart, I’ll be honest, it was mostly for myself. I needed to write that story, and once the characters took life and started on their own journeys, I was pretty excited. And here I am, three weeks out from the book’s release, and…
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A New Plan And A Purpose

You’ll notice I’ve given my blog a new name. This Is A Blog About Books…And Life. For years, I never talked about the fact that I was adopted. I was born in the ’60’s, and yep, that’s my mom holding me outside the hospital on the day my parents took me home. Back then things…
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What To Do With Fear and Failure and Other Nuisances

February 18, 2019 | 0 Comments

I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m fine. Maybe you’re familiar with the mantra? It’s easy to say. Easy to repeat. And easy to convince yourself of. Because if you say something enough times, eventually you begin to believe it. Even if it’s not true. So last week I wrote about change, and how I was going…

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Maybe It’s Time

December 27, 2018 | 0 Comments

“You gain strength,courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”  — Eleanor Roosevelt. So we…

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Happy Mother’s Day!

May 13, 2018 | 2 Comments

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing Moms I know and love. Those with us and those who have gone before us. This day is hard for some of us, I know. I miss my Mom too. But I’m grateful for the memories. Grateful for the legacy she left us. And grateful that I got…

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Write, Straight Up

May 7, 2018 | 3 Comments

Not on the rocks. Not with a splash. Maybe a twist, that’d be fun. But don’t water it down. Write what you want to say, write from you heart, and write, for the love of everything, like you mean it. If you don’t mean it, don’t waste your reader’s time, or yours. After 20 something…

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This Thing About Community, And Why We Need It

April 5, 2018 | 0 Comments

Can I be honest? Groups scare me a little. Anything larger than my husband and I, and two other couples is just a bit out of my comfort zone. Even when our group of eight, all close and fun friends, gets together, the house is just a bit too loud. And that’s kind of funny…

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What Am I Afraid Of?

January 29, 2018 | 2 Comments

Words fail me. Lately. When I try to sum up what this thing is that I do and why I do it and why I can’t not do it and why some days the words won’t come . . .  words fail me. And the question rattles hard in my head. Is it . .…

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The Magic Formula

January 22, 2018 | 4 Comments

Sharing some thoughts on writing, and life. So I’m asked this a lot. Mostly in author interviews, occasionally in an email from an aspiring author who just wants a break, wants her words to be seen, heard. “What’s the magic formula?” I’d tell you if I knew. Honest. So this is the part I could…

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Why Not Me?

October 18, 2017 | 1 Comment

The stories make me sad. So terribly sad. And angry. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve seen them too. All over social media. The hashtag #MeToo Sometimes no story at all. Sometimes more than we may want to know. But they’re all connected. Women. Women who have in some way, been violated. Been…

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And So We Choose This Thing

June 21, 2017 | 6 Comments

Thirty one years. Today. I stood before him in a long white gown that cost more than my father wanted to spend, but he bought it for me anyway, because it was the one and he was ‘the one’ and my Dad would have bought me the moon if I said I wanted it. I stood…

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Is It Supposed To Hurt This Much?

June 8, 2017 | 7 Comments

That was a text I got from my daughter a few hours into labour. “Is it supposed to hurt this much?” I wanted to laugh, but I didn’t. Because, yes. It is. And it does. And it will continue to. With every challenge that comes with being a parent. Being a mother or father or…

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Are You Ready To Adopt? by Christine Field

 

Some couples take years to reach this decision point.  Some agonize over it.  For others, it flows naturally.  But when the pain of infertility or miscarriage begins to fade and you refuse to let the sun go down on your longing to be a parent – then you are ready to consider adoption. 

Our journey began after minimal infertility testing and a miscarriage.  Two weeks after the miscarriage we had the pleasure to adopt our first child, a 3-day-old baby girl.  Our bliss was realized.  Surely God could not bless us again so abundantly!

A few months later, I became pregnant and our second daughter was born 17 months after to first.  Up to my knees in diapers, bottles and Cheerios I completely enjoyed my girls.

As I approached 40, a cut-off age for many adoptions, I got the hankering for another child.  This time we turned to Korea and about one year after application, we picked up our 5-month-old baby girl from the airport.  In later years when the kids would ask where babies came from they were convinced they ALL came from the airport.

At the ripe age of 42, my husband indulged my longing for a son.  This was the last year our ages would qualify us for the program.  We forged ahead and soon our son joined our family, also at 5-months-of-age.  At last our family was complete.

We stumbled the days of colic, formula changes, and sheer crowd control, but survived it with grace and lots of love.

The challenges began as the kids got older.  We’ve dealt with many, if not most, of the possible labels:  ADD, ADHD, LD, ODD, bi-polar – E-I-E-I-O.  Learning from each challenge we grew stronger and greater in love.

The first two teens challenged us tremendously with an early, ill-advised marriage for one and the other launching off into the world to have some adventures.  All while I stayed home and dealt with the learning and attention issues and nursed my husband back to health after cancer.

I am happy to say both the older girls are back home and are back on track with school and jobs.  The oldest has even blessed us with a 3 year old grandson who is the delight of our lives.

Still standing through the storms, we are Clare, age 23 with a 3 year old son; Caitlin, age  21; Grace, age 18; and Daniel, age 15.  Our days are full and sometimes stressful but we love each other madly and deeply.  The Lord has redeemed the earlier times of pain and separation because He is a God of restoration.  Praise the Lord!

In honor of National Adoption Month, I would like to offer an e-book version of a book I published a while ago called Should You Adopt?  I have updated it with current information and contacts.  My prayer is that you will be blessed and guided through your own journey. Please leave your email with your comment if you would like a copy. 

Blessings and Peace,

Christine Field

What about you? Have you considered adoption? 

 Christine is a mother of four whose passions are Loving the Lord, Loving her Family, Writing, and the Law.  She is the author of numerous books and ebooks. Currently, she serves as an attorney for the National Center for Life and Liberty (www.NCLL.org).  To read more about her or her books, go towww.realmomlife.com.

 
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