Like many other women in their early 30s I have experienced the emotional pain, envy and agony of being unable to conceive. Our only means of adopting was through the county and all I had heard were horror stories. I was terrified to go this route but my husband wanted to be a “daddy”. He…

I’m thrilled to have had the opportunity to chat with best-selling author, Eric Wilson. I asked Eric if he would be a guest on my blog during my Adoption Awareness month, because he wrote the novelization to the great movie, October Baby. I highly recommend both the book and the movie! Great to have you…

Adoption can be a road etched with uncertainty for everyone involved. At every turn, hearts are on the line, and at every turn is a chance to take another step, to trust a little more, to love. For my own story, I was on the adopting end. My husband and I knew going into it…

It is 14h00, Tuesday, 10 November at Universitas hospital, Bloemfontein, South Africa.  My mother, Greta Dreyer, is giving birth to me. There are no flowers or family members waiting anxiously in the hallway.  My mother’s family does not know that she is pregnant. She is too afraid to tell them because it is 1981 and…

I’ve read lots of articles, blog posts and books about adoption. Primarily, they’re from the point of view of the child who was adopted, or the parents who adopted the child. Very rarely do you come across one written by the birth mother. There’s a reason for that: It’s extraordinarily difficult to explain how you…

If you’re not aware, Bermuda is a British Colony. I do possess a British passport. And a very dry sense of humour, (yes, that is the proper British spelling). In light of the recent US elections and the fact that Bermuda will go to the polls on December 17th, I think we could all use…

At two weeks and one day old, I rode home with my adoptive parents. Of that first family plane ride, I remember nothing except the joy and excitement my parents expressed each time they told me the story—joy and excitement that never diminished, no matter how often I requested the telling. Through their eyes, I…

I always said that if I ever wrote a book about our adoption story it would be entitled “Yours, Mine, Ours, and Somebody Else’s.”  My husband and I had both been married previously, and each had one child when we married.  I had a son and he had a daughter and we had two sons…

  Some couples take years to reach this decision point.  Some agonize over it.  For others, it flows naturally.  But when the pain of infertility or miscarriage begins to fade and you refuse to let the sun go down on your longing to be a parent – then you are ready to consider adoption.  Our journey began after…

Ever had somebody show up at your door uninvited? Depending on who that person is, this can be kinda cool, or really awkward. When my kids were little, we lived in a constant state of toys on the floor, dishes in the sink, socks stuck to the curtains…you get the idea. If anybody stopped by,…