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Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing Moms I know and love. Those with us and those who have gone before us. This day is hard for some of us, I know. I miss my Mom too. But I’m grateful for the memories. Grateful for the legacy she left us. And grateful that I got…
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This Thing About Community, And Why We Need It

Can I be honest? Groups scare me a little. Anything larger than my husband and I, and two other couples is just a bit out of my comfort zone. Even when our group of eight, all close and fun friends, gets together, the house is just a bit too loud. And that’s kind of funny…
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The Magic Formula

Sharing some thoughts on writing, and life. So I’m asked this a lot. Mostly in author interviews, occasionally in an email from an aspiring author who just wants a break, wants her words to be seen, heard. “What’s the magic formula?” I’d tell you if I knew. Honest. So this is the part I could…
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And So We Choose This Thing

Thirty one years. Today. I stood before him in a long white gown that cost more than my father wanted to spend, but he bought it for me anyway, because it was the one and he was ‘the one’ and my Dad would have bought me the moon if I said I wanted it. I stood…
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Why You Keep Trying And When It's Time To Quit.

How did it get to be Friday already?! Well, here we are, and I hope you’ve had a good week. I have some thoughts rattling around lately, that I figure I might try to express, because we’ve been talking about this stuff, my friends and I, and maybe you have too. Fractured Relationships.    Yowch.…
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She's Here!

I know. I left you all hanging. Well. The three people that read this blog on occasion. Ha. I can’t blame you, sporadic blogger that I am. Anyway. One week yesterday, our little Annabel Rose made her dramatic entrance, and I have to say, though I may be slightly biased, she is perfect. And I…
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Being The Grown-Up In The Room

I read this excellent post on Jen Hatmaker’s Facbook page yesterday. She talked about looking for the grown-up in the room, i.e. the person not arguing, not using childish banter to go on the attack, the person others look to because they’re talking sense. Sometimes you have to be that person. Sometimes you have to…
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Buh-bye 2016 And What's Up 2017?

So here’s my last vlog for 2016, not that there’ve been many. But I did get my feet wet and that counts, right? I have a bit of a cold, so I sound stuffy, and I apologize for the unsteadiness of the camera, not real sure what that was all about! Anywhoo, here I am…
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Things I'm Learning From The US Election

I’ve been unable to write the past few days. Unable to trust that I’d use my words wisely. And I don’t know for sure I can do that today. Don’t know for sure I’ll hit that publish button when I’m done. But I do know I need to write the words down. Because that’s what…
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Is Summer Over Yet?

We are still blazing hot here in Bermuda. It’s an odd thing, because when I say blazing, people assume temps up in the 100’s, which is never the case here. Our hottest will be around 95. But then, factor in humidity, and you’ve got smothering air that soaks you within minutes. Let’s just say I…
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Happy Mother’s Day!

May 13, 2018 | 2 Comments

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing Moms I know and love. Those with us and those who have gone before us. This day is hard for some of us, I know. I miss my Mom too. But I’m grateful for the memories. Grateful for the legacy she left us. And grateful that I got…

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This Thing About Community, And Why We Need It

April 5, 2018 | 0 Comments

Can I be honest? Groups scare me a little. Anything larger than my husband and I, and two other couples is just a bit out of my comfort zone. Even when our group of eight, all close and fun friends, gets together, the house is just a bit too loud. And that’s kind of funny…

read more...

The Magic Formula

January 22, 2018 | 4 Comments

Sharing some thoughts on writing, and life. So I’m asked this a lot. Mostly in author interviews, occasionally in an email from an aspiring author who just wants a break, wants her words to be seen, heard. “What’s the magic formula?” I’d tell you if I knew. Honest. So this is the part I could…

read more...

And So We Choose This Thing

June 21, 2017 | 6 Comments

Thirty one years. Today. I stood before him in a long white gown that cost more than my father wanted to spend, but he bought it for me anyway, because it was the one and he was ‘the one’ and my Dad would have bought me the moon if I said I wanted it. I stood…

read more...

Why You Keep Trying And When It's Time To Quit.

May 19, 2017 | 2 Comments

How did it get to be Friday already?! Well, here we are, and I hope you’ve had a good week. I have some thoughts rattling around lately, that I figure I might try to express, because we’ve been talking about this stuff, my friends and I, and maybe you have too. Fractured Relationships.    Yowch.…

read more...

She's Here!

May 7, 2017 | 4 Comments

I know. I left you all hanging. Well. The three people that read this blog on occasion. Ha. I can’t blame you, sporadic blogger that I am. Anyway. One week yesterday, our little Annabel Rose made her dramatic entrance, and I have to say, though I may be slightly biased, she is perfect. And I…

read more...

Being The Grown-Up In The Room

February 13, 2017 | 8 Comments

I read this excellent post on Jen Hatmaker’s Facbook page yesterday. She talked about looking for the grown-up in the room, i.e. the person not arguing, not using childish banter to go on the attack, the person others look to because they’re talking sense. Sometimes you have to be that person. Sometimes you have to…

read more...

Buh-bye 2016 And What's Up 2017?

December 30, 2016 | 2 Comments

So here’s my last vlog for 2016, not that there’ve been many. But I did get my feet wet and that counts, right? I have a bit of a cold, so I sound stuffy, and I apologize for the unsteadiness of the camera, not real sure what that was all about! Anywhoo, here I am…

read more...

Things I'm Learning From The US Election

November 12, 2016 | 10 Comments

I’ve been unable to write the past few days. Unable to trust that I’d use my words wisely. And I don’t know for sure I can do that today. Don’t know for sure I’ll hit that publish button when I’m done. But I do know I need to write the words down. Because that’s what…

read more...

Is Summer Over Yet?

September 20, 2016 | 3 Comments

We are still blazing hot here in Bermuda. It’s an odd thing, because when I say blazing, people assume temps up in the 100’s, which is never the case here. Our hottest will be around 95. But then, factor in humidity, and you’ve got smothering air that soaks you within minutes. Let’s just say I…

read more...

Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing Moms I know and love.
Those with us and those who have gone before us.
This day is hard for some of us, I know. I miss my Mom too.
But I’m grateful for the memories. Grateful for the legacy she left us. And grateful that I got to be a mom, and finally understand it all. Maybe. I don’t know that you ever get to the point where you feel you ‘know it all’.
And that’s a good thing. 
So after almost 29 years of trying to figure this mom thing out, I may have a few thoughts.
And because I know a lot of young moms out there right now, I thought I’d share them with you today.
Being a mom is the most incredible gift you will ever get, and it’s also the hardest thing you’ll ever do.
You will never get it ‘right’. There is no such thing as ‘the perfect mom’, so quit trying to be that.
And all those sleepless nights, temper tantrums and days where you go into the bathroom, shut the door and cry because you just need five minutes of peace? They don’t last.
The trash free lunches and ticked homework schedules and the endless driving from here to kingdom come and back again every darn day, gone in a flash. The fights and arguments and stony silences across the dining room table? Forget it. When your kid says they hate you, what they really mean is they don’t understand why they’re not getting their way. And one day? One day they will. They will get it, and they may even thank you for it.
Because one day you’ll be sitting on the other side of all this wondering where the time went.
One day you’ll be holding the next generation in your arms, blown away by the miracle that this kid came from your kid, and you’ll try to figure out how it went so fast and how you got through it all unscathed. Maybe you didn’t. But those heart scars? They are precious. Because they tell your story.
We do battle for our kids every day, Moms. Doesn’t matter how old they are. And they need us.
They need us to fight for them and with them, to pray, for them and with them for as long as they’ll let you. But most of all? They just need our deepest unconditional love. All day. Every day. Through all those hard things and through the best things. The laughter and the hugs, the victories and the broken dreams and the tears, and the sweet moments of silence when the whisper through the dark comes, and you hear, “I love you, Mom.”
So hang in there. What you’re doing, this raising up kids to be responsible adults, it sounds impossible now, right? But it’s not. And it’s the most important thing you will ever do in your life. And nobody can do it quite like you.
And when you know that through it all, even though you’ve failed a million times and got back up the next day and started over again, and, well, you’ve just done the best you can, and . . . they love you anyway?
That’s all we can ask for.
And truly? That’s the best reward of all.
Yes. It’s worth it.
So worth it.
Keep doing what you’re doing, Moms. You’re amazing.
And I love you.